Fruit of the Spirit: Self Control

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When we lose control …

It’s not always easy. We have our wants and desires. We have our emotions. Sometimes we get really, really hurt and upset when somebody says something mean, and we react instinctively. Sometimes we really, really want that last cookie or Pringles chip, and it’s hard to stop.

Just like a lion naturally wants to prowl the jungle or roar at a human, our natural self (our sin nature) wants to do bad stuff sometimes. Also, there are some good things that we should do, that our natural self just doesn’t want to do. Again, it takes self-control to do the right things that we are supposed to do. So if we try to control our self by ourselves, it’s very likely that we may fail. We have to learn to allow the Holy Spirit to control us. That’s the way to have self-control.

When the Holy Spirit is in control, I have self-control.


God gives us self-control

Remember, the Fruit of the Spirit is self-control. Fruit means it is the natural result of something — having the Spirit of God in us.

When we accept Jesus into our hearts, we have His Holy Spirit in us.
2 Timothy 1:7 for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. This means, when we are walking with God and looking to him for guidance, God’s power and love are in our heart and he will help us use self-control when we need to.

Titus 2:11-12 For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. 12 It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age … The word grace means “what we do not deserve.” Grace does not mean we can live however we like without caring about others or what God says. Grace is what God gives us so we have the power to make the right choice in every situation. Grace is the reason we can exercise self-control and have all of the fruit of the spirit in our lives.

As we allow the Holy Spirit to work in our lives, instead of our “self”, He helps us to exercise self-control in our thoughts, words and actions.

When the Holy Spirit is in control, I have self-control.


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Fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness

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Jesus is gentle to us

In Matthew 11:29, Jesus tells us that he is gentle and humble in heart. When we find it difficult to handle our problems, we can go to him anytime. Jesus takes our cares and burdens upon his strong shoulders.

Jesus says, in Revelations 3:20, “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me”. He did not say he will bang the door or knock down the door down if we did not open it.

Although God is so powerful and strong, he treats us gently. He lets us choose whether we want to follow him and do what he says. But the Holy Spirit lives in us and he speaks to us gently, in a still, small voice. He reminds us that we are righteous (because Jesus has given us his righteousness and removed our sin) and guides us to choose what is good.


We can be gentle

Remember, we have Jesus in us. He is the vine, and we are the branches. If He is gentle, we can be gentle to others too.
Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love”.






Fruit of the Spirit: Faithfulness

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God is faithful

The Bible is full of descriptions of God’s faithfulness — He is abounding in it, His faithfulness reaches to the heavens, faithfulness surrounds Him, His faithfulness lasts through generations etc.

God shows His faithfulness in Jesus who was willing to go all the way for us — even to die on the cross for us.


God is faithful even when we cannot see

Sometimes when we face problems and challenges, we think God has abandoned us. But He is always there.

2 Thes 3:3 But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one.

Sometimes God doesn’t act the way we want Him to. But that doesn’t mean He is unfaithful. Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego understood that. That’s why they said, “Even if our God does not deliver us, we will not worship other gods.”



God is faithful even when we are unfaithful.

2 Tim 2:13 if we are faithless, he remains faithful, for he cannot disown himself.

Yes, we fail. Yes, we fall. Yes, we do bad things and wrong things. But God is faithful and He never changes. His covenant is with Jesus, and Jesus never changes. So our relationship in Him is always secure.


God is faithful to keep us faithful to Him

And the best thing is, God is the one who keeps us faithful in Him. It’s the work of His Holy Spirit who lives in us! God keeps us in His faithfulness.

Imagine a young child having to carry a glass of water without spilling a drop. It may seem difficult and challenging or even impossible. But God is like the parent whose hands are also on the cup to prevent it from falling.

1 Corinthians 1:8 He will also keep you firm to the end, so that you will be blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 God is faithful, who has called you into fellowship with his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

1 Thessalonians 5:24 The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do it.





Fruit of the Spirit: Goodness

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God is good

God IS good. He doesn’t just do good things. But His very nature is good. So He cannot be bad. Jesus is God.

When a rich young man called Jesus “Good teacher”, Jesus answered Him, “Why do you call me good? No one is good — except God alone.” (Mark 10:18). That was Jesus’ way of telling the young man that He IS God. And God is good!

All of us were born with a sin nature. Sin is not doing what God tells us to do. Sin is bad. On our own, we could never become good. On the cross, Jesus took all our sin, all our bad. And in exchange, He gave us all His goodness so we can be truly good. Jesus took all our bad so we can have all His goodness!

We don’t do good to be good.

We do good because Jesus made us good! Zacchaeus was a cheat and traitor when Jesus went to his house. Jesus didn’t wait for Zacchaeus to be a good boy first before He became His friend. But because Jesus’ goodness transformed Zacchaeus, he was able to do the right thing, the good thing.

If we have received Jesus into our lives, Jesus’ goodness is in us. He has taken away our sin, our badness. We are now Jesus boys and girls — so we are GOOD boys and girls! And we can do the right things, the good things.


Jesus’ goodness follows us always

Jesus is also our GOOD shepherd — the one who takes care of us, His sheep. And when we follow Jesus, Jesus’ goodness and love follows us too … all the days of our life.

“Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” (Psalm 23:6)



Fruit of the Spirit: Kindness

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Jesus is kind to us

Do you know Jesus was kind to us even when we were God’s enemies?

Col 1:21 “This includes you who were once far away from God. You were His enemies, separated from Him by your evil thoughts and actions.”
But even though we were God’s enemy, and left to die because of our sin, Jesus still came to die for us. He was kind to us — He cleaned us with His blood, He lifted us and took care of us, He paid the price of our sins for us.

Titus 3:3-7 explains it well. “At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. 4 But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, 5 he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, 6 whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, 7 so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.”

Jesus showed us kindness when He died on the cross for us to save us from our sin and death.

We can be kind just as Jesus is kind to us

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Jesus forgave us and showed us kindness when we were His enemies. Today, we have Jesus in our lives, so we can show kindness to others — our family, our friends, strangers and yes, even our enemies!





Fruit of the Spirit: Patience

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Jesus is patient with us
1 Timothy 1:15-16 Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners — of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.

Jesus is patient with us even when we rejected Him, when we didn’t listen to Him, when we wanted to do things our own way.

Jesus shows us His patience so that we may believe in Him and receive His eternal life.


Jesus is our patience
Unlike the boy who prayed for God to give him patience, we do not have to ask God for patience. We have Jesus in us, so if Jesus is patient, so we can be patient.

We remind ourselves how patient Jesus was and how he continues to be patient with us even when we make mistakes, say or do things which hurt others and maybe even hurt ourselves. When we focus on Jesus, we will find that we are more patient with other people and with ourselves.
Let’s look to Jesus. Remember, you have his life in you!





Fruit of the Spirit: Peace

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In life, we have storms — ups and downs. Because of Jesus, we can be at peace because He will bring peace amidst the storm of our life.

But Jesus is not physically with us today! It’s different if we have someone whose hand we can hold when we are fearful.

Jesus had to go back to heaven so that the Holy Spirit can come and live in our hearts. And He will remind us about the peace that Jesus has given to us.

John 14:26-27 But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.


Jesus also tells us that life will not always be rosy, that there will be challenges and problems in life. But we can have peace because His spirit is in us. And the fruit of the spirit is peace.

Jesus told the disciples this before He went back to heaven. He wanted to reassure them that He has won the victory and He is coming back for us some day.

John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”


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Fruit of the Spirit: Joy

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Do you know what Jesus was like when he was on earth?

Jesus has more joy than anyone else

When Jesus was on earth, he was full of joy and life. Many people would invite him to go to their houses and even mothers would bring their children to see him. Hebrews 1:9 says that God has anointed Jesus with the oil of joy above anyone else.


Jesus had joy even during the most difficult time

We know that Jesus was badly beaten before he was nailed on the cross. His flesh was torn, he lost so much blood, he was so badly beaten that he didn’t look like a human being anymore. Soldiers made fun of him and told him to save himself.

Hebrews 12:2 says that Jesus endured the cross, scorning its shame because of the joy set before him. He took all the beating, the shame and humiliation because of the joy he had knowing that because of what he did on the cross, He will have us and we will have Him forever.


We have joy because we have Jesus

Before Jesus was arrested, during his meal with his disciples, he told them, “These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full” (John 15:11).

Jesus knew that he would leave his disciples soon, but yet he said they will have joy. Didn’t he know that they will feel sad because he was going to die on the cross?  But before Jesus told them that they will have joy, he said that He was the vine, and they were the branches (John 15:5). This was the secret to their joy! They will have joy because they had Jesus’ life in them, just like now, anyone who has received Jesus as their Savior has Jesus’ life in them.

Because Jesus is in us, we can have His joy — even though we are facing a situation that is sad, scary or we don’t know what to do. So when you are feeling down, look at Jesus, remember you have His life in you and so you can have His joy, no matter what situation you are in.


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Fruit of the Spirit: Love

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God is Love

What does the Bible say God is? God is love. (1 John 4:8)

Love is not just something God does. Love is the very nature of God. It’s who He is. Love rules everything that He does.


How did God show His love for us?

By sending His son, Jesus, to die on the cross for our sin. Jesus loved us soooooo much that He gave His life for us. Even when we didn’t deserve it. Even when we hated Him. Even when we were His enemies.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

So if we ever doubt whether Jesus loves us or not, look to the cross. That’s the clearest sign of His love.

Jesus’ love is in us!

Jesus tells us that God the Father loved Him, so He loved us. (John 15:9)

And we are to remain in this love — keep being full of it!
And the one command He gives us is to:

John 15:12 Love each other as I have loved you


That seems like such a difficult thing to do! Jesus’ love is unconditional and perfect. How can we love others unconditionally and perfectly? The truth is … we can’t. Not on our own.

On our own, we’re selfish and unkind and self-seeking. Just like the moon, we have no light of our own.

That’s why it is so important to know how much Jesus loves us — so we can be filled with His love to love others around us.


1 John 4:19 We love because he first loved us.

Remember … Love is a Fruit of the Spirit. The Jesus tree produces Jesus fruit. And we are part of the Jesus tree! It’s not us trying to squeeze a durian out of a banana tree!


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